By: Dr. Debbie Lanier
Given the chance, how many of us would take a do-over—not an adjustment but a complete reset, a chance to shed the past and its labels, a life entirely new? (Be honest! Most of us wouldn’t hesitate!)
I didn’t realize it then, but growing up, I got a small taste of remaking myself.
At home…in church…people knew my story. They watched my family unravel. My father left. My mama started carrying the weight of raising four children with limited resources. That reality shaped how people saw me.
In school, though, most people didn’t know my story. I wasn’t “the girl from the broken home”; I was simply…me. I could participate, achieve, and belong, out from under the shadow of what I had walked through.
In hindsight, what felt like opportunity was also an escape. I wasn’t just staying busy. I was searching for a version of myself untouched by pain and shame.
Many of us know that longing. The desire to move forward is real. But the past has a way of lingering, doesn’t it, warping our thoughts while influencing our decisions and direction too? It tries to own who we are because of who we used to be.
We want a new chapter but keep running into old narratives. (Can I get an AMEN?!)
What I didn’t realize then but know in high definition now…real transformation doesn’t come from erasing the past. It comes from being reshaped right here in the present.
God speaks to us as powerfully as He spoke in ancient times. He urges us with these words: “Rise to your feet!” He seeks to do a purifying work in us in THIS season! As we allow Him to have His way, God promises… “I am remaking you… into a people invincible.” (Micah 4:13)
We can feel so overlooked and worn down that “invisible” seems more fitting than “invincible.” I hear you!
Study God’s process described in Micah. Remaking occurs through refinement, through pressure and stretching, in seasons that feel uncomfortable, even unwanted. In such seasons, NONE of what you’re facing is punishment. It’s preparation!
The language of threshing and refining feels unfamiliar to our technological age, but I promise, it speaks to where we are. Anything that cannot sustain what lies ahead must be removed. Not everything we carry is meant to continue with us. (Read that again! WHEW!)
Fear, insecurity, approval-craving…they shape our lives and limit our capacity to grow into all God dreams for us. Refinement burns away those things that can’t go where He’s taking us. This separation doesn’t diminish us! It strengthens us!
Friend, we must reframe how we process difficult seasons. What feels like loss may actually be freedom. What feels like pressure may be development. What feels like delay could be intentional preparation. With God’s help, we become more stable, more grounded, and more capable of carrying what comes next.
Stop saying, “Why is this happening to me?” Start asking, “God, what are you building in me for my next chapter?” He’s not doing something to you; He’s doing something worthwhile in you!
If you give Him free reign to do the work, your internal growth will steel your capacity to stay steady through hard things. God is not building in you a life free from challenge. He’s developing a depth in you that no longer shakes at what used to break you! You’ll gain strength not determined by circumstances. You’ll carry confidence not rooted in what others think. You’ll possess endurance that weathers life’s storms with courage.
Y’all! THIS is what it means to be REMADE by God Himself.
You’re not stuck, and you’re surely not what you once were. As you are refined and remade by God, you become someone stronger than you’ve ever been!
Will you allow God to remake you? He offers a far better “do-over” than you’ve ever imagined! I’m living proof!
For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at www.HopeCommunityChurch.tv.
Publisher’s Note:
The moment I read this piece from Dr. Debbie Lanier, I literally stopped in my tracks. It met me exactly where I was that morning, exhausted, emotional and needing the reminder that God is still in the business of remaking lives. I immediately knew these words were meant to be shared.
I have a feeling many of you may need this message, too. Because the truth is — every single one of us longs for grace, growth, healing and yes… sometimes even a do-over.
Dr. Debbie Lanier has a beautiful gift for speaking truth with honesty, hope and compassion, and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to share her words with our LKN Magazine readers.
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